shug's place

Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, chocolate in one hand, martini in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming WOO HOO what a ride! -- Source unknown

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Tuesday, August 30, 2005

The Birthday Surprise

First let me just say that I've never been good at this whole journaling thing, so don't be surprised that this is only the 3 post.

As I was driving home from the store tonight I was thinking back to my 30th birthday party that was at the beginning of the month.... My Mom called me 3 or 4 times the week before to make sure that I was coming home for my birthday so she could have everyone over. She definitely made a bigger deal out of it than I did.

Anyway, while we were sitting around talking after eating dinner my uncle blurts out "You need to find a man and have a baby because your Dad wants a grandson." To that others around the table replied, "He has 2 now." To which he replied, "He wants a real one." Now let me just say that this may not be verbatim, however this is the jest of how things went.

My Dad has 2 step-grandsons, hence the wanting a "real" grandson reference. I'm not sure if my Dad really feels this way or if it was just a thought that came across my uncle's mind. Since I've told my parents I am a lesbian we have never really talked about certain things, one of which is me having children. I have thought about it on occasion but would never feel comfortable discussing it with either of my parents. Not that they wouldn't be understanding, just it seems very strange. I mean it's not something that can just happen by mistake. It would have to be a well thought out, planned event. Who would the father be and how would the actual act take place?? All questions I have no answer to, let alone would I feel comfortable discussing it with my parents.

The other issue is the fact that I haven't dated a man for about 9 years. I've been in a few relationships with women, the longest lasting 3 years. My parents have met almost every woman I have dated and have been very cool about things. My extended family (including said uncle) have also met these women and I assumed they understood the circumstances of the relationships. However, after his comment, I'm wondering if I actually have to come out and tell them face to face. I mean can people really be that oblivious? 9 years with me only bringing women to family functions....

Friday, August 26, 2005

Music

I was recently introduced to Ray. Take a listen and tell me this isn't some of the best new music you have heard.

Virgin blogger

Ah yes, this is my first time with a blog....

I'm not exactly sure why I'm starting a blog, other than a post by one of my friends who encourages the activity. Unlike Aunt B., I am not a writer and do not claim to make any sense. I guess the whole point of my blog will be to keep my friends updated with my life. Yes, I'm one of the worst friends ever. Please don't hold it against me!