The Birthday Surprise
First let me just say that I've never been good at this whole journaling thing, so don't be surprised that this is only the 3 post.
As I was driving home from the store tonight I was thinking back to my 30th birthday party that was at the beginning of the month.... My Mom called me 3 or 4 times the week before to make sure that I was coming home for my birthday so she could have everyone over. She definitely made a bigger deal out of it than I did.
Anyway, while we were sitting around talking after eating dinner my uncle blurts out "You need to find a man and have a baby because your Dad wants a grandson." To that others around the table replied, "He has 2 now." To which he replied, "He wants a real one." Now let me just say that this may not be verbatim, however this is the jest of how things went.
My Dad has 2 step-grandsons, hence the wanting a "real" grandson reference. I'm not sure if my Dad really feels this way or if it was just a thought that came across my uncle's mind. Since I've told my parents I am a lesbian we have never really talked about certain things, one of which is me having children. I have thought about it on occasion but would never feel comfortable discussing it with either of my parents. Not that they wouldn't be understanding, just it seems very strange. I mean it's not something that can just happen by mistake. It would have to be a well thought out, planned event. Who would the father be and how would the actual act take place?? All questions I have no answer to, let alone would I feel comfortable discussing it with my parents.
The other issue is the fact that I haven't dated a man for about 9 years. I've been in a few relationships with women, the longest lasting 3 years. My parents have met almost every woman I have dated and have been very cool about things. My extended family (including said uncle) have also met these women and I assumed they understood the circumstances of the relationships. However, after his comment, I'm wondering if I actually have to come out and tell them face to face. I mean can people really be that oblivious? 9 years with me only bringing women to family functions....
As I was driving home from the store tonight I was thinking back to my 30th birthday party that was at the beginning of the month.... My Mom called me 3 or 4 times the week before to make sure that I was coming home for my birthday so she could have everyone over. She definitely made a bigger deal out of it than I did.
Anyway, while we were sitting around talking after eating dinner my uncle blurts out "You need to find a man and have a baby because your Dad wants a grandson." To that others around the table replied, "He has 2 now." To which he replied, "He wants a real one." Now let me just say that this may not be verbatim, however this is the jest of how things went.
My Dad has 2 step-grandsons, hence the wanting a "real" grandson reference. I'm not sure if my Dad really feels this way or if it was just a thought that came across my uncle's mind. Since I've told my parents I am a lesbian we have never really talked about certain things, one of which is me having children. I have thought about it on occasion but would never feel comfortable discussing it with either of my parents. Not that they wouldn't be understanding, just it seems very strange. I mean it's not something that can just happen by mistake. It would have to be a well thought out, planned event. Who would the father be and how would the actual act take place?? All questions I have no answer to, let alone would I feel comfortable discussing it with my parents.
The other issue is the fact that I haven't dated a man for about 9 years. I've been in a few relationships with women, the longest lasting 3 years. My parents have met almost every woman I have dated and have been very cool about things. My extended family (including said uncle) have also met these women and I assumed they understood the circumstances of the relationships. However, after his comment, I'm wondering if I actually have to come out and tell them face to face. I mean can people really be that oblivious? 9 years with me only bringing women to family functions....
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